Obituary of Elaine H. Douglas

Elaine H. Douglas, age 69, entered into eternal rest Thursday, August 17, 2017. Mrs. Douglas was born December 12, 1947 in Brooklyn, NY. She is the daughter of the late George and the late Helen (Puwalski) Warchol.

Elaine helped to keep the household in order and make dinner for her family. Later in life she helped people look their best by working in a local Brooklyn salon.

Elaine is the beloved wife of Robert V. Douglas. She is the loving mother of Jeanine Desposito with her husband Marc. She is the cherished grandmother of Briana, Olivia, and Addison.

In Lieu of Flowers, the family requests donations be made Elaine's honor to the Susan G. Komen Fund for Breast Cancer Awareness. The website for online donations can be found by following this link: 

Susan G. Komen Fund

Grandma’s Hands

Grandma, some ninety plus years, sat feebly on the patio bench. She didn’t move, just sat with her head down staring at her hands. When I sat down beside her, she didn’t acknowledge my presence and the longer I sat, I wondered if she was OK. Finally, not really wanting to disturb her but wanting to check on her at the same time, I asked her if she was OK. She raised her head and looked at me and smiled. "Yes, I’m fine, thank you for asking," she said in a clear strong voice. I didn’t mean to disturb you, Grandma, but you were sitting here staring at your hands and I wanted to make sure you were OK, I explained to her.

“Have you ever looked at your hands?” she asked. “I mean really looked at your hands?”

I slowly opened my hands and stared down at them. I turned them over, palms up and then palms down. No, I guess I had never really looked at my hands as I tried to figure out the point she was making.

Grandma smiled and related this story:

"Stop and think for a moment about the hands you have, how they have served you well throughout your years. These hands, though wrinkled, shriveled and weak have been the tools I have used all of my life to reach out and grab and embrace life. They braced and caught my fall when as a toddler I crashed upon the floor. They put food in my mouth and clothes on my back. As a child my mother taught me to fold them in prayer. They tied my shoes and pulled on my boots. They dried the tears of my children and caressed the love of my life. They wiped my tears when my husband went off to war. They have been dirty, scraped and raw, swollen and bent. They were uneasy and clumsy when I tried to hold our newborn daughter. Decorated with my wedding band they showed the world that I was married and loved someone special. They wrote the letters home and trembled and shook when I buried my parents and spouse. They have held children, consoled neighbors, and shook in fists of anger when I didn’t understand. They have covered my face, combed my hair, and washed and cleansed the rest of my body. They have been sticky and wet, bent and broken, dried and raw.

And to this day when not much of anything else of me works real well these hands hold me up, lay me down, and again continue to fold in prayer. These hands are the mark of where I’ve been and the ruggedness of my life. But more importantly it will be these hands that God will reach out and take when He leads me home. And with my hands He will lift me to His side and there I will use these hands to touch the face of Christ." 

I will never look at my hands the same again.

But I remember God reached out and took my grandma’s hands and led her home. When my hands are hurt or sore or when I stoke the face of my children and husband I thank grandma. I know she has been stroked and caressed and held by the hands of God. I, too, want to touch the face of God and feel His hands upon my face.

Visiting hours will be Sunday, August 20 from 2:00 to 5:00 PM and 7:00 to 9:00 PM at Marine Park Funeral Home. A Mass will be held 9:45 AM on Monday, August 21 at St. Bernard R.C. Church, 2055 East 69th Street, Brooklyn, NY with Bishop Raymond Chappeto officiating. Entombment will be in St. Charles Cemetery, Farmingdale following the service.

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